It’s not easy being the ‘adult’ in a relationship. Relationships are often challenging and can cause feelings of confusion and anxiety. These emotions can then lead us to make poor choices that could ruin our lives or someone else’s. This is why it is so important to learn ways to be the ‘adult’ in your relationships. When we understand what it means to be an adult, we become stronger people who can deal with life’s challenges more effectively. Let’s look at some common examples of when you need to act like an ‘adult’, and then learn how to do just that!
When You Need To Act Like The Adult In Your Relationship
Here are some situations where it is very important for you to know that you are acting like the ‘adult’ in your relationship.
You’re fighting about something big. It might be about money, sex, or anything else. Your partner wants you to stop talking and is trying to get you to calm down. But you feel that if you don’t speak up, you’ll always end up losing out on some kind of compromise. This isn’t fair to you and it isn’t fair to your partner either. They both deserve to have their voices heard. And even though they may disagree, it doesn’t mean that they can’t come together and work through things. If one person in the relationship needs to feel heard, it is only right that they are listened to too.
Your partner is asking you to do something that you really don’t want to do but feels that you should. It could be something small like taking out the trash or doing some chores around the house. Or maybe it is something large like cleaning up a room or getting rid of old things. Either way, it can be hard to say no to your partner. But sometimes, saying yes to them will actually be better for you in the long run.
You’ve gone weeks without seeing your partner. You haven’t talked much and you aren’t sure what happened between the two of you. One night you were sitting on the couch watching TV and he came home unexpectedly. He said he was going to take a shower and went into his bedroom to change clothes. A few minutes later you heard him talking from his bedroom and saw him walking towards the kitchen. Then you saw him walk back and go into his bedroom again. A couple hours passed, you still hadn’t heard from him. So finally, you called him. He didn’t answer. After several attempts, you decided to leave him a voice mail. He never returned your call. What should you do now?
You think your friend is being dishonest. She claims to be having problems with her husband and says that she cannot trust him anymore. She has told you that she has been having many problems with her marriage and is thinking about leaving her husband. How does this affect you? She tells you that she wants to talk about her situation before making any decisions. You tell her that you think she is wrong because she hasn’t tried to save her marriage first. How would you react if it were your partner telling you this?
Let’s Look At 10 Ways To Be An Adult In a Relationship
Now that we have seen some examples of when it is important for you to act like the ‘adult’ in your relationship, let’s discuss ways on how to do just that.
1) Have healthy boundaries. Boundaries are necessary in all relationships. We can’t expect our partners to treat us well if we don’t set boundaries when it comes to our own actions. By setting healthy and strong boundaries, you teach yourself that you are worthy enough to be treated well.
2) Know what you want in your relationship. Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that we never expected. We may agree to date someone knowing full well that it isn’t what we wanted. Or we may have agreed to live with someone who we knew wasn’t right for us. Once you realize what you want in your relationship, you can better protect yourself from unhealthy ones.
3) Don’t settle. It is tempting to believe that if you keep quiet about something, it won’t happen. However, this can set you up for disappointment. By speaking up, you show your partner that you are willing to stand up for yourself and what you want. And even though your partner may not agree with you, it’s better than nothing.
4) Communicate openly. Communication is key in any relationship. When you feel stuck, open communication with your partner is imperative. Try to avoid blaming each other when you are having trouble communicating. Instead, try listening and understanding instead.
5) Take time alone. If you are feeling overwhelmed by your relationship, it is vital that you take time alone. You can do meditation as this can help you to clear your head and regain control. Without the ability to separate yourself from your partner, it is easier for you to feel like you’re trapped in your relationship. Taking time alone helps you to see your situation clearly and allows you to make the best decision for yourself.
6) Respect yourself. Remember that you are worth loving, treating well and respecting. No matter what, you deserve to be loved, respected and treated well by your partner. Treating others as you wish to be treated is a sign of respect.
7) Make changes where needed. Sometimes we are hurt by mistakes made by our partners and we feel like we must stay in a bad relationship just to keep everyone happy. But staying in a relationship that isn’t working is never fun. It would be better to move forward and make changes where needed.
8) Don’t give up. You may feel like giving up on your relationship due to the stress and difficulty you are experiencing. And even though you may feel as though your partner isn’t right for you, it is possible that they are. Just remember that you are the one in charge of your happiness. And if you are unhappy, you will not feel good about yourself.
9) Don’t lose faith. Even if you have doubts about your relationship, remain positive. Trust that everything will eventually work out. And even if it doesn’t, you can still learn from your experiences.
10) Take care of yourself. Your health and emotional wellbeing is essential in any relationship. You are worth it! Take care of yourself and you will be able to support your partner in a healthier manner.
In conclusion, relationships can be difficult at times. But it is important to remember that you are the adult in the relationship. You are responsible for your happiness. And as adults, we need to be able to take action and make changes where needed. So next time you are struggling in your relationship, remind yourself that you are the adult in the relationship. And remember to be the ‘adult’ in your relationships.