Getting your needs met with an outside people pleaser requires compromise. And since the people pleaser has many highly desirable qualities; it’s important to keep them happy, too. Make sure there’s a balance of personal-time, family-time, and couple-time built into your weekly schedules.
How do you deal with a people pleaser in a relationship?
Just because your partner tries to please everyone, doesnt mean you have to, too. Setting healthy boundaries models for your partner that its normal and completely acceptable to say No sometimes. It also reinforces the message that everyone needs to prioritize self-care and being treated with respect.
Why do people pleaser damage relationships?
People pleasers step into a codependent role by becoming obsessed with the needs of the other person to the detriment of their own needs. At an extreme, they rely on their partner for feedback about their worth, as they have not been able to develop a sense of their own identity as a person.
What it’s like dating a people pleaser?
“When you’re dating a people pleaser, you may find that they don’t want to take any responsibility for decisions or parttake in decision-making processes alone,” says Ryan. “This can be due to fear of getting it wrong, not pleasing the other person or ultimately rejection if they don’t quite get the planning ‘right’.”